My question for this week is how fast is too fast? In relationships we get so excited about everything being so new and fun and sometimes we move too fast, but how fast is too fast? How long do you wait to say I love you to your partner, how long do you wait to sleep with them, or move in with them? These are important questions and decisions that will shape the course and growth of your relationship. In my experience you can’t force things to happen, if they are meant to be they will just happen, cliché I know, but it’s true. I know couples who were together only three months and said that they love each other; however they fight all the time. Do you truly know someone enough to love them after three months? This is what I’m talking about, how do you know when the timing is right? Many couples wait to get married have kids and then later end up divorced. I’m mostly writing this blog for comments, feedback, and to raise the question of how soon is too soon? Sometimes we think we’re in love but lust can make us do crazy things. It’s in my experience that waiting can be good for a relationship. Who says you have to follow steps a to c, what if b, c, then a works better for you? Life isn’t perfect and neither is your relationship, but too much too soon on it can crack your foundation. Without a solid foundation in the relationship what do you really have to build on? This is what I mean by taking things slow, really making sure things not only feel right but that it’s the right decision logically. They say to just follow your heart, but I think it takes a little of that and your mind to truly know what is right for you. Only you can know when things are right and when it’s time, but just really think about what makes you happy, in the end that’s all that really matters.
written by Brooke Reese